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How Much Forgiveness Should We Model?

As role models for our kids, we parents have tall orders—we have to set an example and model desirable character traits and behaviors, but we also have to allow for some flaws and humanity. One of the things I know that single parents can model for our kids is forgiveness—such an important life lesson. We might start to wonder, however, how MUCH forgiveness we should model and when our forgiveness lessons have crossed over into co-dependency? I think about forgiveness in two pieces—there are the little, daily constant infractions that we need to learn how to let go of and … Continue reading →

Ask Permission or Ask Forgiveness?

Years ago, I sat on a volunteer committee and one of the members was an elderly nun. She shared her “wisdom of the ages” at one meeting when she said it was “far better to ask for forgiveness sometimes than to ask for permission.” What a thing to come from a woman of religion! I have noticed, however, that in family life, this seems to be some wisdom that my children wrestle with too… “What is the worst that could happen?” How many times have you asked yourself this question when you tried to figure out whether or not to … Continue reading →

Are You Good or Are You Great?

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Would you call your relationship good or would you call it great? A great relationship isn’t the product of a storybook tale that just happens when a fairy godmother waves her magic wand. They happen because you take charge and you make it happen. To have a great relationship, you need to be great. The things you accomplish do not define greatness, but how you accomplish them makes a huge difference. So how can you be great in your relationship? First and foremost, does your spouse know where they stand with you? Do they feel adored? Do they know they … Continue reading →

Destructive Behavior

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Do you live with resentment and grudges? Are they a third party at your table for two? The problem with this type of third party is that they are an elephant in the room or they take up two spaces at your table and they can leave you chomping at the bit, ready to wreak havoc on your spouse whether they genuinely deserve it or not. Crime and Punishment When you carry around a suitcase full of grudges, packed tightly with resentment, you may find yourself eyeing every activity your spouse does with a harsh eye of judgment. That harsh … Continue reading →