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Emotional Intelligence for a Single Parent

A few years back there was a bit of a buzz about “emotional intelligence.” The idea was promoted by Daniel Goleman and he came up with some tests so that individuals could figure out what their ability was to perceive, respond and manage one’s own emotions and the capacity to also perceive and respond to the emotions of others. The theory was that we needed to not only be book smart and aware of facts and figures, but that our human relationships would also be stronger and more fulfilling if we developed these emotional intelligence skills. As a single parent, … Continue reading →

Show an Interest in What People Do and Say

We periodically talk about different communication techniques tips for building relationships with prospects, clients, customers and colleagues here in the Home Business blog. After all, even if your small business has you interacting with only a few people, how you interact is still going to be crucial. A key communication technique that you can apply to any area of your life is to show a genuine interest in what others do and say. You notice that I stuck the word “genuine” in there? That means that people can tell the difference between someone who is actually listening to what they … Continue reading →

Where’s “IT” at? Keeping your Child’s Anxiety Out of the Bag and on the Chain.

If you’ve ever had to enter into hand-to-hand combat with the witch under the bed or the bearded baddie at the window, then you already know that children’s anxiety can be disturbingly real to them. Just like adults, children can also suffer from free-floating and generalized anxiety or panic attacks. One in nine children are affected to the extent that it constipates their daily functioning and our nightly sleep. The witch or monster doesn’t just appear every now and then as part of normal chronological or problem solving development, they rarely leave and they will taunt the child at any … Continue reading →

Getting Your Students to Cooperate

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As a teacher (and parent) it may seem that all you do is give orders, correct children, and hand out punishment. Carrying out activities such as the ones described above can cause a long and stressful day for any adult or child. If only there was a way to get the students to do what you want them to do without having to scold, yell, or pull out your hair! While there will always be defiant students who test your nerves, there are some ways that you can make your days a lot less stressful. Try some of the tips … Continue reading →

Issues with Discussing Feelings with Students

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Previously I discussed how important it is to children that teachers and parents acknowledge their feelings. While it seems that it would be a very simple task to listen to and acknowledge a child’s feelings, many parents and teachers have trouble or questions about how to deal with the feelings of a child. Below are some common issues that teachers and parents may come across when facing the feelings of a child. Students will not open up about their feelings. When asked how they feel they do not answer or give a short answer. When asked out directly, many children … Continue reading →

Acknowledging the Feelings of Students

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Most adults want their feelings acknowledged. They want people to know and hear how they feel. However, most adults do not give children this same acknowledgement of feelings that they desire. The feelings of children are often passed off and casually dismissed as being insignificant. While many in society may not feel that the feelings of a child cannot make a difference in the world, the feelings of children should be acknowledged. Children’s feelings not only need to be acknowledged at home but also at school. Students are continuously expressing feelings to their teachers. They talk about how they feel … Continue reading →

Getting Kids to Talk About Things when They don’t Want to

There are times when our children desperately need to talk to us but they simply will not open up. As a concerned parent, we wonder whether we should badger and push them to talk to us, or respect their privacy and trust that they will talk to us when they are ready. Of course it depends on the child, but I think that we parents can develop skills and behaviors that can help our children to talk to us about those subjects and topics that are tough. I like to think of myself as a decent communicator and an open … Continue reading →

Expressing Frustration

Here’s the thing—I have three high-school aged teenagers, each of them is one year apart in school and a little more than one year apart in age. I love them, I adore them, I am often inspired by them—but they have a regular tendency to frustrate the living daylights out of me! I would like to go on record that I think it is perfectly appropriate and healthy for a parent to be able to express her frustration at her charges and offspring now and again… According to all the experts, in all in the HOW we express ourselves to … Continue reading →

Alternatives to Smacking.

This is a sister article to: To Smack or Not to Smack? What is the Answer? Click here to read it. If smacking another adult is assault, it may be beneficial to train our children early not to smack people. Smacking is a behavior that belongs with the tactics of power and control associated with the Cycle of Violence. To break this cycle, we need to find alternatives to physical punishment when all we really want to do is lash out at our children. Children never deserve physical violence and learn nothing positive from such action. If we model alternatives … Continue reading →

A Super Duper Resource Site for Working with a Child who has Asperger’s

What a week I’ve had! My partner has been diagnosed with a serious illness and my son has been diagnosed with Asperger’s. How do I feel? Desolate. I have a hole in my chest the size of a football and stinging salt spray is assaulting the raw edges. I am exhausted and confused. I want to crawl into my bed and howl but I know that it won’t improve my situation. Rather than give in to my own feelings of grief, I have decided to use my grief to seek as many helpful resources as I can find. I am … Continue reading →