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Disciplining Your Child: Some Ways Work Better Than Others

I would love to think that time-outs were the ideal disciplining method to curb unruly behavior and bad attitudes, but sometimes they are not. They are a good first method to try and hopefully it will work. It does not harm the child physically. It is also not too harmful regarding their self-esteem. Once the time-out is over and done the previous activity can resume. I tried time-outs many times. I was hoping that it would eventually work. It did somewhat, but not as well as I had hoped it would. Initially, time-outs were me holding my child in his … Continue reading →

When Timeouts Stop Working

Timeouts are definitely the discipline technique of preference for the preschool set. This has become such a popular way to deal with just about everything and anything a child may do with questionable behavior. For many children and parents, the day comes when timeouts lose their effectiveness. You might assume that a timeout will not work on a thirteen-year-old, but you might be surprised to have a defiant four-year-old or elementary-age child who is balking at the timeout. What is a parent to do when a child refuses to participate in the trusty timeout? I hate to break it to … Continue reading →

Are There Different Methods You Could Use?

Experimenting with different parenting methods may seem like a luxury–something only for those parents who have plenty of time to read and study up on different techniques. For many of us single parents, we might be more likely to stick to our established methods–even if the results are less than great. It just takes too much time and energy to go exploring for new parenting tricks and ideas! But our methods really could be getting stale, or maybe they have never really worked at all but we’ve thrown up our hands, declared that we’re doing the best we can and … Continue reading →

1-2-3 Magic – Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 – Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D.

My house gets a little crazy at times. With four strong-willed children, I can go nuts in about thirty seconds flat. Reading “1-2-3 Magic” by Thomas W. Phelan has given me some new direction, and even some new hope, in disciplining my children. I confess I tend to be a lecturer. When one of my children misbehaves, I think if I explain to them why their action was inappropriate, they’ll understand and want to do better. Dr. Phelan explains why this isn’t true. Children aren’t fully able to grasp the implications of their actions, and even when it’s explained to … Continue reading →

Are You Punishing Yourself Along With Your Kids?

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How many times have you punished yourself right along with your kids? Sometimes it’s unavoidable. Suppose you’re out on the town and your child starts to misbehave, should you endure this misbehavior or leave? Most experts tell you to leave. However, is it fair to you or perhaps a sibling? Absolutely not. The entire family will suffer for the misbehavior of one. There’s ways around this, of course, although someone will still be unhappy. If you have a child who routinely misbehaves you can take separate cars and agree in advance that one parent will leave with the offending kid … Continue reading →

Three-Level Method of Discipline

How many times do you warn your kids before you administer a punishment? Is it three? Five? Depends on how you are feeling? As you know, consistency is the name of the game when we discipline. Your kids have to know what to expect in order for any method to work. Dr. Jerry Day describes a corrective teaching method called the three-level method of discipline. The first level is a warning. This is done with no penalty attached. It’s when you tell your kids to stop tormenting the cat, bickering among themselves or climbing on the furniture. If they take … Continue reading →

Sending Your Kids To School “AS IS”

In my last blog, I listed tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics related to discipline. One of the tips was to, “try to avoid power struggles, focus only on those issues that are really important.” Basically, pick your battles. Sometimes this is easier said than done and many times I end up embroiled in a power struggle with Tyler over issues that aren’t that important in the grand scheme of things. However, this morning I ignored something that he did that normally would have resulted in a struggle. I sent him to school “as is”. What I mean by … Continue reading →

Discipline Problems? All It Takes Is A SMILE.

Being a parent is hard. Before you have kids, it looks kind of easy. I was born an aunt, so I’ve been around kids my entire life. However, once you become a parent you realize it’s not easy at all. But it is a rewarding occupation, even with the ups and downs. How to discipline effectively is one of those issues that all parents face. Many of the techniques that we use simply don’t work for our kids, or they don’t work all the time. That’s an unpleasant fact that we have to face. When we fail, we have to … Continue reading →

Parents- Control Your Kids’ Behavior In School Or You May Have To Pay A Fine

If my child misbehaves in school, should I be penalized for his unruly behavior? Or is it the responsibility of the teacher to control my child when he’s in school? Some districts are beginning to fine parents for their kids misbehaving in school and personally, I think it’s a good thing. When I was in school, we didn’t misbehave. Okay maybe just a little. But somehow the threat of having our parents notified and the possibility of a spanking was enough to keep us in line. Some school districts blame the parents’ attitudes for the state of today’s schools, as … Continue reading →

Is Your Method of Discipline Working?

Don’t feel like your method of disciplining is working? Relax, you’re not alone. According to a recent poll, many parents also feel that their method of discipline is not working on their kids. Researchers from Children’s Hospital at Vanderbilt, polled more than 2,000 parents of children between the ages of 2 and 11. They focused on four common discipline techniques: time-out, removing privileges, yelling and spanking. The research appears in the January issue of Clinical Pediatrics. Here’s a few of the highlights from the study: Over 42 % of the parents surveyed reported time-out as their method of discipline. 42% … Continue reading →