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What is “Lazy Parenting” ?

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There are a variety of parenting styles to choose from. Most people pick the one that their own parents used, or they select a style that they feel best fits their family. “Lazy parenting” is an option. It may sounds neglectful – or even dangerous – if you are unfamiliar with how it works. Oddly enough, so called “Lazy Parenting” may actually be more intensive, and difficult, than other parenting styles. No one wants to be called “lazy”. The word has a very negative connotation! One might assume that “lazy parenting” is a style selected by slacker parents who don’t … Continue reading →

Things Our Kids Have Lost

In today’s world it seems that you are either a Tiger Mom, or you’re not. There is no in between and each camp thinks the other is doing it wrong. As a single mother I worry all the time that I’m not doing the right things to help my child be successful. Should I push more? Should I hold Hailey to a higher standard to ensure that she is successful or will that just make her resentful? Should I relax more? Let Hailey figure out who she is and go with the flow or will that make her lazy and … Continue reading →

If I Were You, I Would……

Are you the recipient of much unwanted advice? Parenting in general seems to bring out everyone’s need to tell you how to do things better. Become a single parent and that advice giving is kicked up a notch. “Do you really think she should spend so much time at daycare?” “Dating? Don’t you think it’s a little soon?” “When my kids were that age I made them sleep in their own beds, you’re spoiling her.” And on and on and on, until I wanted to scream. Everyone, it seemed, knew how to raise my daughter better than I did. Everyone … Continue reading →

Set Your Child Free

Most of us would probably say that trust is something you earn. Sometimes it is automatically given until it is broken. In a parenting relationship, trust comes in another way. It is being able to trust in who our children are. I would bet that many of us enter into the world of parenting with some ideas floating around in our minds of what we envision our children to be. If we hang onto those visions so tightly that we can’t see any other way, our trust in who are children become will be shattered. But that isn’t on them. … Continue reading →

Germs Among Us

I’m not 100% positive, but I think my brain is hemorrhaging. My eyes sting, my sinuses are on fire, and my temples are sizzling from what feels like an acid-like substance that’s coursing through my veins instead of blood. Oh, and my 7-year-old is going on week three of her cold from purgatory. And by purgatory I mean one step away from Hell, not Heaven. Our doctor, along with every other health expert I’ve seen yapping it up on morning news shows this week, keep reminding us to wash our hands “thoroughly,” as we are smack in the middle of … Continue reading →

Are You a Meddling Mom?

The other day I was reading a devotional that really convicted my heart. It was about trusting in your own ways and interfering in other people’s business. Almost immediately what came to my mind were my children. It dawned on me that I had become a meddling mother. One of the things this devotional said was that if you are frantically trying to figure out what to do—panic mode—then this is a clue that we have to slow down, take a deep breath and most importantly…take a giant step back. There are many occasions as a parent in which we … Continue reading →

School Pictures

Sometimes it seems like my child’s school is a money pit. From school clothes and supplies to pictures and field trips, there is always something that will dent your budget. I am always looking for ways to stretch my dollar just a little bit farther, living on one income can mean lots of sacrifices but you don’t have to sacrifice everything, you just have to get a little creative. Take school pictures, those packages are such a waste of money. You always wind up with more pictures than you need in sizes you don’t want, and to make matters worse, … Continue reading →

Benefits To Being A Single Parent

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As a parent, every day I’m amazed to see the young woman my daughter is turning into. I think that is true for all parents, we look at our children and there is so much joy that we get to be a part of something so wonderful. As a single parent there is a little sadness mixed with that joy, sadness that our kids don’t get to grow up in an intact family, that Daddy doesn’t help tuck them in every night. But always there is joy and pride in watching them grow and seeing the men and women they … Continue reading →

The Constantly “Fussy” Child

Different children have different temperaments. Most of us parents discover quickly that our children do not arrive as cherubic blank slates after all, but come with at least the basics of their own unique personalities. Some children are easy going and pleasant, while others seem to be continually in a bad mood. For the parent of the constantly “fussy” child, the fussiness does not end when the diapers do. Coping with that child who seems to be forever unsettled, grumbly and frustrated can be a big challenge. For a child whose temperament is just “fussy” and you have determined there … Continue reading →

Guide to Pirate Parenting – Tim Bete

When I first picked up “Cap’n Billy ‘The Butcher’ MacDougall’s Guide to Pirate Parenting,” I really had no idea what to expect. I thought perhaps it would be a book that compared raising children to training pirates, and that through the allegories, we would be taught new and vital information we need in order to be successful parents. What I actually got was a book that literally tells you how to raise your children to be pirates, and it’s absolutely hysterical. It’s a spoof on all the other parenting books out there, and makes you step back and realize that … Continue reading →