Can You Ignore It?

A huge chunk of parenting is responding to our child’s behavior. While we may try to anticipate as much as we can, and even try to be an influencer and guide things in the direction we would like them to go, the truth is that often we are in response mode—responding to whatever crisis or behavior our child has come up with. Instead of responding and reacting to everything your child does, however, you might want to ask yourself if this is something you can possibly ignore? This can be such a tricky and sticky parenting technique—after all, we don’t … Continue reading

When a Child Does the Opposite of What You Want

Yes, there is such a thing as a child being oppositional on purpose. Of course, sometimes he or she just wants to do what he or she just wants to do—but if you think your child is purposefully choosing or trying to do just the opposite of what YOU want, you might be right… Often, kids have other motivation and they are not being oppositional on purpose. But, when a child feels powerless or as if he is being heard or his wishes are being taken seriously, he may act out with very strong defiance. As kids get older, instead … Continue reading