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Privacy, Whose Room is it Anyway?

As a teen I shared a room with my siblings. There was no such thing as privacy. My sisters came and went as they pleased and even touched and moved my belongings. My parents also had unlimited access to my room and my things. These days I often hear people talk about the need for teen privacy and space. Parents should not invade a teens space not go through their things. This concept is still foreign to me. This concept is based on the assumption that the teen actually owns something such as their clothes, their toys and trinkets, or … Continue reading →

Don’t Overlook Boundary and Privacy Violations

Boundaries and limits are important for any family. For a single parent family, many of us have a ‘loser’ idea of what boundaries need to be and that can be a good thing. After all, with recent parenting philosophies on attachment parenting and the family bed, more and more of us have less strict boundaries about space and personal relations than our parents did. However, healthy boundaries and a respect for privacy are still important and if we overlook those violations we can create a big problem as our children get older or our living situations change. As someone who … Continue reading →

Privacy, Teens and Parents—Part Three

In my first two articles about privacy and the adolescent years, I wrote about how we parents can and should respect a certain amount of privacy for our teens. By the time our children are 18 years old, after all, they should be approaching adulthood and independence. Of course, we may not treat a 13 year-old and an 18 year-old the same way, but we can work on the process of privacy and respect during the teen years. I also want to talk about how we can set an example and set our expectations about privacy by expecting our children … Continue reading →

Privacy, Teens and Parents—Part Two

Earlier this morning I introduced the important topic of privacy as it pertains to adolescents and parents. While I wrote about WHY I think how we negotiate privacy issues can be such a big deal in the teen years, I also wanted to talk about the areas where I think we need to figure out how we will handle privacy issues with our teens. Some of the biggies when it comes to teens and privacy are their rooms, their possessions and things like book bags, journals, e-mail messages, etc. I think that a general rule of thumb can be that … Continue reading →