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Irresponsible Owner Breaks Writer’s Heart (Again)

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I was driving home from work yesterday and I saw something that had me pretty upset: a little white dog tied up to a car antenna in the middle of a parking lot. My first thought was: what a dumb place to tie your dog. But it isn’t just stupid, it’s irresponsible. It endangers the dog. Would you tie a child to a car and leave them there while you do your shopping or run back into the house for something you forgot? What makes you think a dog wouldn’t get spooked or distracted and try to dart out into … Continue reading →

Are You Too Gullible or Easily Deceived?

Many parents develop a bit of a ‘sixth sense’ when it comes to knowing what their children are up to. We learn to read their faces and discern when they may be stretching the truth or trying to pull the wool over our eyes. Other parents, however, are much more gullible. Either they do not want to know that their child is up to troublesome activities, or they genuinely cannot tell when they are being lied to. If you are one of those ‘too gullible’ parents or find that you are easily deceived by your child or children, it might … Continue reading →

Trusting and Allowing Them to Make Their Own Decisions

Parenting and worrying go hand-in-hand—we want to protect our children from big mistakes and we want to guide and nudge them in the direction that we think is right for them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. But, at the same time, we also need to learn how to allow our children to make choices and decisions too; and we need to trust that they will make choices and decisions that are right for them—even if they are not the same choices we would make! This trust and allowing room for personal choice starts early. I know that some … Continue reading →

Scripture Study: 1 Nephi 8:35-38

Lehi is recounting his dream to his family. He tells them of a large and spacious building filled with people who laugh at those who have chosen to partake of the fruit of the tree, and how many have fallen away and become lost after listening to the mocking. 35. And Laman and Lemuel partook not of the fruit, said my father. This is interesting to me. He didn’t see Laman and Lemuel partake and then fall away—he saw that they didn’t partake at all. This must have caused him great distress as a parent, but he can’t have been … Continue reading →

Forgiveness in the Parent-Child Relationship

When we think of that great, ongoing life lesson with forgiveness, we may think of personal relationships with partners and spouses, friends, and family–but we don’t often think of our relationship with our young children. But, forgiveness IS an ongoing issue in parenting and one more place where we (both parents and children) get to wrestle with this difficult task… The other day, I wrote about trust and how parents and children wrestle with trust issues in the growing up years–but I think that learning how to let go and forgive is such a big thing–and one where many families … Continue reading →

Re-building Lost Trust With a Child

When I was growing up, I can remember my parents saying things like, “You’ve lost our trust” or “How can we trust you now?” If I remember correctly, this was most likely during my teenage years when I did all sorts of naughty and irresponsible things–or when I slipped from my normally overly-responsible eldest child role. Now that I have teenagers of my own, I can see just what a slippery slope the whole trust issue really is. One of my daughters put the trust issue right on the table a few months ago when we were having a rocky … Continue reading →