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Recognize Effort, Not Results

We are a results-oriented society—read the morning newspaper and you’ll see dozens of stories where the end definitely seems to justify the means and we tend to reward people based on what they “achieve,” not the process and efforts along the way. As parents, however, too much focus on results can create a lot of stress and pressure for our kids and they may actually be afraid to try and struggle if they feel they will never get to the “reward.” I think parents can have a great deal of influence on raising kids who are NOT afraid of failure … Continue reading →

1 in 88 Can’t Wait

Are you the parent of a child who has autism? AutismSpeaks wants you to get involved, politically, to make this country a better place for your child (and for children like him or her). AutismSpeaks wants all public officials to recognize autism as an urgent public health crisis. Adding your voice can help. AutismSpeaks is the world’s leading autism science and advocacy organization. The group is dedicated to funding research into the causes, prevention, treatments, and a cure for autism. They also want to increase awareness of autism spectrum disorders. They advocate for the needs of individuals who have autism … Continue reading →

You Can Have a Successful Fitness Routine

It can feel like a successful fitness routine is impossible. But I think many times that’s because we are looking for instant results. We don’t see the importance of building up our routine, learning how to be consistent and the hard work it takes to get where we want to be. Too often we have the end result in mind. We are fixated on losing a certain number of pounds, fitting into that dress, or being ready for the summer season. What we have to focus on is the here and now. A routine is something you do without even … Continue reading →

Genealogist Challenges the DAR

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Genealogists spend a great deal of time searching for documents that prove basic facts about their ancestors. There are many who greatly enjoy the specificity and detail their research requires. One must put in a great deal of effort to make sure everything is correct. Therefore, it is understandable that one genealogist is fighting with the DAR over whether or not his ancestor really fought in the American Revolution. The Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR) is a lineage based genealogy group. It was formed when women were denied acceptance to the Sons of the American Revolution, (another lineage based … Continue reading →

He’s Got Her Wrapped Around His Little Finger!

Chase has been dating Amy, a 28 year old single mother, for over a year. Things are getting serious; they’ve even been batting around the “M” word. She is attractive, kind, funny, considerate, and they both love to fish and camp. In a nutshell, she’s everything he’s been looking for in a life partner…except for one little thing… a twenty-eight pound, 3 year old little thing, named Marcus. “Now don’t get me wrong, he’s really cute and everything” admits Chase, “but she jumps every time he cries! And I mean every time! He has totally got her wrapped around his … Continue reading →

Free Access to Immigration Records – This Weekend Only!

Ancestry.com is one of the most popular and most easily recognized genealogy websites. It has tons of information that you can search through that will help you find your ancestors. Normally, this website requires that you pay in order to get the information you are searching for. This Labor Day Weekend, however, you can enjoy free access to their collection of U.S. Immigration records. I have tried using the website Ancestry.com myself. I learned that it is possible to use their search engines, and see a long list of potential results, for free. The problem, I quickly learned, started when … Continue reading →

Feeling Upbeat and Trimming Down

I have not written a lot about my fitness results lately. I hit a few bumps in the road a couple of months ago and backslid. With it came a wave of self-disappointment and a less than cheery mood. I am used to this type of thing happening because I have dealt with it in the past in my self, but I am a pretty good trooper with a lot of help from someone who watches over me. I got back in the saddle again and I am riding off into the wild blue yonder with a wave of excellent … Continue reading →

Good Parent Patrol

Twitter, Facebook, and other social networking sites have changed the way the world communicates. Technology has also made it much easier to blow the whistle on bad parents. Just ask local law enforcement officers, who respond to dozens of calls per day from concerned strangers, who witness alleged acts of parental neglect and child abuse. Acts of bad parenting are well documented, and these days it typically takes a story like this to raise eyebrows. This sad fact disturbed folks in Kalamazoo, Michigan so much that they decided to take matters into their own hands. Kalamazoo County Child Abuse and … Continue reading →

Psychological Implications of Obama Presidency

As a psychologist, I can’t help but look at the impact of having Barack Obama in the White House from a psychological point of view. And in particular, on the effect it will have on the black population of the US. “If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible, who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time, who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer,” said Mr. Obama, standing before a huge wooden lectern with a row of American … Continue reading →

Can You Help Your Child Get a Conscience?

There have been times over the years when I’ve been downright worried about whether one of my children would ever develop a conscience about his or her behavior. It’s happened with all of my three children at one time or another and I can assure you that while we still have a few bumps, overall, they do have a conscience about their behavior and how they interact with others. BUT, it hasn’t been a linear path and there have been days when I was mighty worried… Maybe there are some children who are born with a well-developed conscience, but it … Continue reading →