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Sleeping in Separate Beds: You’re Not Alone

Our culture believes that couples who sleep in separate beds are either experiencing or inviting problems in their marriage. Because I’m a light sleeper, I’m a firm believer that couples should be free to sleep separately if necessary. Jon and I almost always sleep together, but if one of us is restless we move to another bed, to keep that person from being woken up. I know that sleeping in the same bed improves intimacy. Once kids are part of the equation alone time between couples is scarce, and time in bed together, even if it’s just the process of … Continue reading →

Do You and Your Spouse Sleep in Separate Beds?

In the days of black and white television, it was scandalous to show a man and woman in the same bed. I remember seeing episodes of I Love Lucy and wondered why Lucy and Ricky had twin beds—the world just wasn’t ready for anything more suggestive. Today when we hear of a man and woman sleeping in two separate beds, our thoughts immediately leap to the conclusion that they are having anger and/or sexual problems. But is that the only reason for sleeping separately? Some people are driven to the couch or to the guest bedroom by their spouse’s snoring … Continue reading →

Having the Sex Talk

Here in my city, Milwaukee, the United Way has issued a new campaign called, “Let’s Talk.” It is a program designed to talk to teens about sex in order to prevent statutory rape. In Milwaukee, teen pregnancy is a significant issue (as it likely is in many other large cities across the United States). But one unique problem is the high number of children born to teens who are fathered by adult males. There are some pretty bold ads being placed on bus stops across the city. They depict older men inside teen girl’s bedrooms and say things like, “She … Continue reading →

The Sleep Nazi

I’ve been called a lot of unflattering things since becoming a parent, but “Sleep Nazi” is not one of them. Allow me to clarify: I am often accused of being a “Sleep Nazi,” only I don’t consider it unflattering at all. In fact, it’s a title I wear with unrelenting, in-your-face pride. If you saw how my child acts when she doesn’t get a good’s night sleep, I guarantee you would dig deep to find a much more complimentary title for me. I am a stickler when it comes to bedtime; namely because my child is an absolute wreck if … Continue reading →

Parents Who Allow Teens to Have Sex at Home

Maybe I shouldn’t be shocked but I am. Apparently there is a new trend emerging in some homes, where parents are allowing their teens to have sex at home. Elizabeth Hasselbeck, co-host of “The View” and part-time contributor to “Good Morning America” took part in a discussion with both parents and teens in separate settings to discuss teen sex at home. There are some parents who believe that if their teens are going to have sex; they would be safer doing it at home. One mother cited her reasons for allowing her 18-year-old son to have sex at home is … Continue reading →

Co-Sleeping

Sometimes I hate to admit it, but I sleep with my baby, almost every night. My husband thinks I put Johnny into his own bassinet, and just bring him into our bed when he’s ready to nurse, but this isn’t always the case. Actually, it’s rarely the case. I like having him near to me. In reality, it lets me sleep better because I can hear him breathing and feel him moving. When he’s in his bassinet in the next room, I find myself waking up every hour or two to go check on him, making sure he’s alright. And … Continue reading →

Sex or Sleep?

Hey moms, which would you choose as the perfect Valentine’s Day gift: a romantic night of unbridled passion with your sweetie or 10 glorious hours of uninterrupted sleep? If you selected the latter, you aren’t alone. Far from it. In fact, a new survey found that nearly 70% of moms would rather sleep than have sex. The phrase “We ain’t getting any,” has new meaning for today’s moms. It refers to sleep. I know I’m not getting enough, are you? According to the survey’s host, Hybrid Mom, a female head of household doesn’t sleep—-EVER! Granted, the poll was unscientific, but … Continue reading →

Preschoolers and “Sleep Unders”

My preschooler recently got an invitation to her fist sleepover. She was thrilled. Mommy, not so much. Initially I had reservations (my main concern was driving across town to pick up my daughter at 1 a.m. when she decided that she missed sleeping in her own bed), but after a few discussions with the host parents, I RSVPed “yes” and now whole-heartedly share my daughter’s excitement for this childhood rite of passage. Well, kind of. I was fine with the idea until I started blabbing about my decision. Apparently, there’s a huge number of parents who have strict no sleepover … Continue reading →

The Art of Sleeping Together

We hear a lot in the media at times about who’s sleeping with whom. Usually though what they’re talking about has more to do with sexual activity than it does with sleeping. While sexual activity is a joyful part of married life, the importance of which should not be discounted, there is something to be said for the simple joy of curling up next to another body in bed to sleep as well. One of the things Mick and I have done throughout our married life is to make a point of going to bed together. Often, but especially when … Continue reading →

Causes of a Sexless Marriage

There are more of them out there than we might think. Long time married people who are living a sexless marriage. While a loving marriage may be had without sex, I am sure that many will agree with me when I say that sex and physical intimacy should definitely be a part of marriage and can strengthen it. While sex in marriage is private, it is also something that a couple should not be ashamed about and should seek help if needed. As one of my favorite lines from the movie Moonstruck is said when an older couple goes about … Continue reading →