Teaching Your Child What Makes a Good Friend

The fact is, we don’t always like our children’s friends. There, I’ve said it. Before I was a parent, I swore I was going to be nonjudgmental and hands-off when it came to letting my children choose their own friends and playmates. I have remained “almost” true to my pre-parenting promise, but I did learn that children don’t always naturally know how to be and choose good friends and that friendship is something we parents have a role in teaching too. There is a great deal of trial and error in the socialization of a child. Our kids probably learn … Continue reading

Teaching Kids About Spreading Rumors

Now that school is back in session that means that many children’s social lives shift into high gear. One of the major developmental opportunities that comes from school is that children can learn how to interact with different people, make friends, resolve conflicts, and also learn how to get along in social situations. Many of those lessons (like so many of life’s lessons) are learned the hard way—through painful and bumpy experience. Learning about the perils of gossip and rumors is just one of the lessons of childhood socialization. Children need to be taught that spreading rumors is unacceptable. Spreading … Continue reading