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Preparing Emotionally for Mother’s Day

So I am beginning to emotionally prepare myself for Mother’s Day. Every year I try to not have too many expectations and yet despite that, I always end up feeling disappointed in some way. Maybe it’s really just me or maybe it’s just that my children truly don’t grasp the importance of this day to me. Maybe I shouldn’t make Mother’s Day to be of such importance. Maybe I should just appreciate the fact I am a mother and leave it at that. Maybe… But I would be lying to myself if I tried to pretend that there is a … Continue reading →

No More “Enjoy Your Child While You Can”

I read an interesting blog this week from the Huffington Post. It was written by a mother of three young children. The core message was that although she understands the good intentions of those who say things like, “Enjoy them while you can” or similar sentiments such as that, she finds it a bit unnerving. She expressed how it makes her feel like she isn’t a good mom if she isn’t enjoying every moment. Because let’s face it, the reality is that not every moment in parenting is enjoyable. I certainly understood her point. It made me pause and think … Continue reading →

The Shocking Verdict of Casey Anthony

On Tuesday I watched the live broadcast of the verdict being read for Casey Anthony. As was the case for most people, I was stunned when I heard “Not Guilty.” Poor little Caylee Anthony won’t see justice done…at least not this side of things. Facebook got very active, lots of thoughts and opinions. Most people can’t wrap their minds around the verdict but others believe the circumstantial evidence wasn’t enough and that the prosecution reached too high in making this a death penalty case. Then of course there is the whole thing of not knowing what exactly caused her death. … Continue reading →

Why Do I Feel Like A Failure?

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My ex husband is great at making me feel like a failure in my daughter’s eyes. When we first divorced he made sure to tell our daughter, over and over again, that I was the one who left him. If it wasn’t for me she would still have her Daddy, her house, her room, her school. This was all my fault. I was not about to share the stories of infidelity that lead to the divorce with my ten year old so when she said “This is your fault, you left Daddy, he didn’t want us to leave.” I had … Continue reading →

Extending Grace to Our Children

The other day I blogged about messing up, big time, as a parent. It will affect where my daughter goes to high school and I had been a little worried about what she was going to say when she found out that I was the one responsible. It really shouldn’t have come as a surprise but she wasn’t mad at me. We have a really good relationship and she knows what my intentions are, so she saw it for what it really was…a mistake. It got me thinking about the times my children have messed up, the mistakes they have … Continue reading →

Have You Ever Regretted Being a Parent?

Have you ever regretted being a parent? You might be gasping right now at the audacity to ask such a question, but I can’t help it. I saw a Dr. Phil show this past week where a woman felt this way. She said that she felt like running away sometimes and hates being a wife and mom. What are her reasons for such feelings? She doesn’t receive enough help from her husband, who feels that his job is to provide and her job is to take care of the family. Oh by the way, she also worked full-time. I think … Continue reading →

Learning to Forgive Ourselves

Yesterday I blogged about my terrible morning and how I sent my youngest son off to school crying. It was helpful to receive some feedback that I am not alone. It was also helpful when later that morning I made a trip to the beauty salon. I find the beauty salon to be therapeutic. Of course, it helps that my hair stylist happens to be my friend and I have been going to her for nearly 17 years now. As soon as I walked in the door she knew something was wrong. I spilled it all out and guess what? … Continue reading →

As a Parent We Are Always Learning

One of the discoveries I have made in being a parent for nearly 17 years now is that its not just about my children learning and growing, it is about me doing the same. I am amazed at how little I really know but how much more I do learn as I parent each of my three children. I think what I have also found is that when I finally get an age or a stage down pat, I’m suddenly thrust into a new one. It’s not until it has passed and I look back that I can say what … Continue reading →