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When Your Intentions Are Misunderstood

Have your intentions ever been misunderstood? You think you are going about something the right way and suddenly it comes back to slap you in your face. Well that is what happened to me this week. But I have to first preface this with a little background. I have the most amazing children, I really do. I am so proud of them and I feel so blessed that despite them being 17, almost 14 and 12, I have had minimal problems with them. However there is always that one child that if anything, keeps life interesting. For our family it … Continue reading →

We Can’t Change Our Children

Out of all the many lessons I am learning on this journey of parenthood, one that has especially been hitting close to home lately is the fact that I cannot change my children. Nor should I really desire to. Actually, this lesson began early on when my oldest son was about 4 years old. My husband is a sports fanatic. He not only enjoys watching sports but playing as well. So when our firstborn was a son, he assumed they would share the same interests. As soon as he was of age to join T-ball, we signed him up. My … Continue reading →

To Leave or Not to Leave

In the early years of our marriage, the threat of leaving became our default position in a distressing number of our fights. For me, the devastation of feeling totally misunderstood, my efforts unappreciated, and my actions unfairly judged left me thinking that there was only one way out, and that way was out the door. Over the years, however, I have come to understand a few things: 1) There is hardly ever just one way out; 2) If you are truly committed to the marriage, leaving is not an option; and, 3) Control is at the root of most conflict. … Continue reading →