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Are You Ready For A Multi Racial Family

If you are considering adopting a child or children that are not part of your own race there are a few other things that you need to take into consideration. If you are considering it you are willing to welcome a child into your heart that does not look like you, great we did too. Have you considered that when you do welcome that child into your hearts that you will no longer be like the majority of other families? Are you ready for that? Have you given any consideration to what your friends and extended family may think? Think … Continue reading →

Who Cares if my Family Matches?

Have you ever taken a child to one of those family friendly kids pizza restaurant and they won’t let you leave with your child? Can you believe that this could and does happen? It has happened to my family. When we went into the restaurant we were expecting a day of family fun, playing games and a pizza dinner. We all walked in got all the same stamps on our hands showing we were in the same group. No one questioned us when we were on our way in to the restaurant. The situation totally changed when we were done … Continue reading →

Shocker at Our Meeting

Tonight at Girl Scouts we were talking about what makes everyone different and special. When it came time for my daughter Rebecca who is 8 to share she mentioned she is adopted and that she has a brother who is black and one that is white. Now you would have thought Santa walked in the room with his Naughty or Nice list, the girls all sat there with their eyes nice and wide and their mouths hanging open. Poor Rebecca looked at me like what did I say that was wrong. I jumped in (benefit of being troop leader) and … Continue reading →

A Lesson In Humility

So my husband is in the hospital, and the kids and I have been going up every night to visit. Tonight we had a new nurse that came in and said how nice it was that one of our kids friends came to visit too. The kids looked at each other wondering who she meant. Now we knew exactly what she meant, and I am sure that the nurse never would have said that had she had known all of our kids are adopted. This got me thinking about how with all the publicity with stars going to adoption for … Continue reading →

We Thought We Covered All Bases

We are not the traditional looking family and that is great with us. When we adopted our kids we could have said we want kids who have the same color hair, skin tone, and eyes so they would have matched us but instead we said we don’t care about any of that only that they were healthy and needing a family. That is truthfully what I think is all that matters. When we started the adoption process we had asked friends who are African American if they thought our child, if we adopted an African American child, would get ostracized … Continue reading →

Holiday Program

Sometimes when you have a child of a different race there are definite advantages. Here is what I mean my son had a school program and he was walking in front of me, because he is too cool to be seen with his old mom. Another student yelled “Hey George your fat”. I turned around and asked the rude child what his name was and when he asked why I told him that his teacher was going to be made aware that he called my son fat. The boy said that George was not my son because I am white … Continue reading →

The Nerve of Some People

We have had total strangers come up to us and ask us why our middle son does not look like us. Sometimes we just walk away but I will admit I did have a little fun with it sometimes. If my children were not within ear shot I would come up with different replies for these nosey people. Some of the better replies I have come up with range from “I know he does not look like us but the hospital insist we took the correct baby home” or “ I know my husband looks like he is Caucasian but … Continue reading →